Once you call yourself «Domina», people tend to think they know everything about you. When they ask questions like «what do you usually do to your slaves?», that’s always an invitation to elaborate on all the details of my kinky, pervert experiences of my sexual life. My private life, to be specific. When I point out that those details are actually private information, the question repeats itself in a more general manner: «But what do you like to do?» Hey, that is still private! Now go away and stop digging! Find someone else to amuse you!
It’s unbelievable how difficult it is for you people out there to understand that sometimes the «Domina» is not in mood. Sometimes the «Domina» doesn’t even want to be a «Domina». Sometimes it’s enough to be an ordinary woman. I am a wife, a business woman, a daughter, a friend. I have a life for God’s sake! That means you don’t have to pity me just because I’m in no mood for acting out my dominant/sadistic sides. I have it the same way with chocolate, in fact. Sometimes I can yearn for it on daily basis, and then it can be weeks and months where I’m not even aware that chocolate exists!
Sometimes the only thing I want is to sleep. Alone! Or lock myself in a quiet room to read a book and listen to music. Or spend some time at the gym together with my iPod or, preferably, with my friends. Sometimes it’s better to sweat outside the bedroom. But when I explain this to you, you don’t seem to understand or you lose interest. Because this was not what you expected from someone labelled «Domina».
But anyway, I’m not to be forced into boxes where I don’t fit. In that way I will always be a dominant, and have always been. I don’t care what you expect of me! I can’t remember that I’ve signed any obligation to be a Dominant 24/7. So, could I kindly ask you all to just fuck off for a while. The time I don’t spend at work now, I want to take care of my husband and my family, cuddle the cat, be with my friends and prepare Christmas. In the meanwhile you could do some reflections on this question: Am I here to entertain you, or are you here to entertain me?
03/11/2010 at 00:00 |
Thank you for this post, I hope many “subs” read it.
26/01/2011 at 18:07 |
Answer: Well, reading some of ur posts certainly entertained me.
Maybe some of mine could entertain u as well.
U r invited :)
Btw, i am 24/7/365. Doesn’t keep me from walking the dog, preparing a delicious dinner, cuddling up with a macho man, or irrationally shopping for things i don’t need, hehe.
26/01/2011 at 20:06 |
I aim to please… :-P Anyway, thank you for your comment at a time when I’m not a very active blogger. I just browsed through your blog, and it looked inspirering. I’ll read some more, looking forward to it.
26/01/2011 at 20:58 |
Great! Proceed with caution tho ;) Too many got burnt already in my place, and couldn’t handle my views on femdom without losing their grace, cool, and self-esteem.